Note: this was written many years ago; I might need to update some of the information. When I have time...
Frequently Asked Questions
Where do you find the Filipinas to include on your Web site? How do you screen them? Can you give me a general profile of what they are like (i.e. from a city, or rural area? Poor, or economically well-off? Level of education?) Do you charge them money to post their pictures/info on the web?
We have two kinds of forms on the Web site for them to fill out:
(1) a form they can print, fill out by hand, and mail in;
and (2) a form which they can fill out on-line and submit via the InterNet.
What percentage of your male customers end up marrying a Filipina whom you introduced to them? Are there more male customers, or more Filipinas looking for foreign husbands? Would you happen to know if the marriages where the couple has met through your service are generally happy?
I am aware of several marriages. They don't always bother to tell me when they get married... I sometimes find out only after someone writes to one and is told she is no longer in the market (at which time I remove her promptly, and give the man his choice of a free address). At the time I am writing this, I have over 1300 Filipinas, and fewer than 500 customers (each of whom usually writes to several prospective brides). There are a LOT of Americans marrying Filipinas each year, having met by other means. These marriages have an exceptionally low divorce rate, and the ones whom I know personally are (mostly) very happy. Remember, half of all American marriages end in Divorce. The other half end in Death. Divorce is worse.
Are there any restrictions on mail-order bride services by either the American or Philippine government that you know of?
The service itself is not restricted by the American government, although they are real picky about getting your bride into the States.... they won't give a visa to a bride under the age of sixteen, and even the older ones take five months to get the visa. Pain in the ass, and no reason for it, they could just get off their butts and do the stinkin paperwork, but noooo, they let it pile up.
The Philippine government is far worse. They are definitely working against
the interests of their own people. These girls want and need to
leave that country. But anyone who helps them to find a foreign husband can be
imprisoned for six to eight years. So I work only in the U.S.
The crummy Philippine Government claims to believe that a bureaucrat knows what is best for a Filipina, more than she herself knows what is in her interest.
What made you decide to put up this mail-order bride service? Are you familiar with the Philippines?
I met my latest wife through such a service, so I know that there is a great
need for this work. A large portion of the human misery in modern America is due
to the fact that, at this time, women and men perceive their needs quite
differently. Even without judging one to be right and the other to be wrong,
the simple existence of such a gap makes this service necessary.
SIR I WOULD LIKE TO ASK ONE QUESTION?
An accurate, truthful portrayal, if she wanted to be portrayed, sure, why not?
IT IS LIKE SELLING OF YOUR SELVES FOR MONEY AND YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OVER THE KIND OF LIFE YOU SHALL DRAG THESE PEOPLE THROUGH.
Umm... isn't it more like simply giving information, like names and addresses and telephone numbers?
DO SOMETHING THAT YOU WILL BE ABLE TO SLEEP AT NIGHT WITH????!!!!
I have done so: I have married one myself, and I sleep every night with her.
What sort of men subscribe to your service? Why do they subscribe to your service?
To this I do not have the answer.
In general, what is so problematic about "Western women" that the men would prefer someone outside their own culture?
Western women do not appreciate men. They do not value traditional family life. A recent study of Americans found that most married men are much happier than unmarried men... but the opposite is true for women. The goals of modern women are not sufficiently met by marriage. Marriage is not the right thing for them to do. It is not good for them. Men must learn not to try to make these women do what they do not like. I am helping Modern Western Women to avoid what they despise.
Would you please give me a brief description of your perception of intermarriage, in particular, interracial marriages?
Well, I don't really have any particular perception of interracial marriages. I would be perfectly happy to live in a color-blind society. I am a Libertarian, which means among other things that I view most matters from the viewpoint of INDIVIDUALS and see no reason to deal with people as members of a group. This is why, for example, I oppose Affirmative Action and so many other Liberal travesties which force us to enter our ethnicity on employment forms, birth certificates, etc. It used to be the bigots who forced this kind of thing, for different reasons. Either way, it is wrong and is none of the Government's business.
I do, however, have a perception of American women, in general, as opposed to Filipina women, in general. Especially in regard to suitability for marriage. It is less common to find an American woman who is interested in having a permanent marriage and family including a Husband. One easy way to see this is to look at ANY (U.S.) publication containing "personals" ads. The women want someone who looks a certain way, and who has certain "social skills" such as dancing or clever conversation, someone who is interesting and exciting and seductive. Now go to my Web page and look at what the girls say they want. It's all pretty simple, really. Over and over they state that they are happy to settle down FOREVER with a MAN who is willing to try to hold down a steady job and be a loving and understanding husband and father. This will get you exactly NOWHERE with an American girl !!!!!
I married through a mail-order service a few years ago and, like a lot of
people who marry this way, always thought it was a great idea and considered
setting up the same kind of business. There seems to be a near-perfect match
between the Western men, who are unappreciated and get no respect in their own
countries, and the Filipinas, who would be happy to find someone who simply does
his job and hopes to come home to a pleasant family life after work. Most
Western women do not want such a boring husband.
I became friendly with the owner of the Video Dating service during these discussions, and he hired me to program his tracking and matching functions. I was able to see every aspect of the business, and I realized that there really was not a chance that someone like me could ever find a decent wife in the modern "dating" market, given what the women were looking for and what I was looking for.
So when the World-Wide Web came along, I saw that it was a perfect venue for this kind of business. The paper catalogs were so expensive that the quality was usually very poor; but on the Web you can publish high-resolution full-color photos which can be browsed by everyone in the WORLD.
The business started with friends and relatives of my wife asking for help in finding husbands for their own friends and relatives. Two weeks after I started working on it, the younger sister of one of my former penpals wrote with a tearful letter begging me to do what I could to find a husband for her. So I decided I was definitely on the right track. I had not heard from her sister for six years, in fact I could not remember writing to her until I checked my files, but she had kept my letters all this time.
Girls used to pass around forms and submit their bio-data for our Catalogs. Now we have forms on the Web site for the girls to fill out, so we usually receive the information directly from a girl wishing to marry.
Unfortunately, I will never be able to run this business correctly, which would involve my going there to set up an office, etc. This is made impossible by the repressive Philippine Government, which is thwarting the wishes of, and working against, its own people by outlawing these services.
I had heard (where I do not remember) that many foreign women espouse the more traditional beliefs that used to hold true in this country.
It is true in some countries... less and less, but still true in the Philippines, which is one of the few countries left in the World where there is still no divorce, so the girls don't grow up seeing divorced people or thinking of it as an option.
I have been accused of being "too old fashioned," wanting to live the "Leave It To Beaver" life of Ward and June Cleaver of the 50's, etc., etc. I have just been wanting to know, what is so terribly wrong about that???
Nothing at all. Oh, I do agree with the feminists
(not the extreme ones, the ones I call Feministas, nor the militant ones,
whom someone else has named Feminazis) who say that family life
is not necessarily the only or best road to fulfillment for all women.
(I am aware that I am considered an anti-Feminist, but I am not a
Misogynist; I was in tears when I saw how the Taliban in Afghanistan
are treating women. I am all for Equal Treatment for men and women;
but the Feministas insist on better-than-equal.
Women comprise the only "Minority" in the world which
outnumbers the "Majority."
They already control most of the money in the U.S.... and ALL of the pussy.
And when was the last time you got custody of a kid?
I did it, but it was FAR harder than it ought to have been;
I had to prove a lot more in my favor than a Woman would have.)
Part of your FAQ section seemed to have been torn from the very pages of my life. This was me and my second wife all over, almost as if you knew me very personally when you wrote this. Don't get me wrong, I love that woman very much, even as I write this, I expect I will be talking to her this evening. I want to get back together with her, but the very fact that I was visiting your web site probably shows that I know deep down inside that this is not ever really going to happen. And perhaps it should not, just as you said, "Men must learn not to try to make these women do what they do not like", which is the mistake I made in marrying her in the first place. It was not what she wanted then, nor do I truly believe it is what she wants now. She does not want to be lonely (who does?), yet she always manages to keep me at arms length, close enough to keep me thinking things might change, but far enough away to keep me totally frustrated and unhappy. Why do I keep punishing myself?, I may never know...
From this day forward, remember that you are no longer
in a "seller's market," powerless to choose.
You now have the ability to select from hundreds of suitable women.
That does not mean that the Philippines is the place where you will
eventually find the best wife, but you can now speak to women
from a position of strength.
I was amazed at the change in my outlook when I first realized that
I was no longer pussy-whipped.
It was an epiphany reminiscent of the raw-potato scene in
Gone With the Wind:
"AS GOD IS MY WITNESS, I WILL NEVER BE LONELY AGAIN!"
You're right, western women really don't appreciate a decent, honest, sincere, educated, loving, hard working, not terribly bad looking man who just wants a loving wife that will look forward to him coming home from a hard day at work, maybe cook a decent meal for him sometimes, take care of the kids (at least until they are old enough to start school full-time, then she can work at a job if she really wants to, but it is not necessary), and yes, I am 42 but I would like to have a child before I am too old to appreciate the whole experience.
I was 46 when I went to the Philippines... I married a 20-year-old
and have since had 2 more kids.
For me at least, kids become more fun the older you get.
It's sorta like having grandkids... except that you can't deliver
them back to their parents when you get tired.
What might it be like to find a truly loving/dedicated (please God, I cannot stand to be dumped again for no truly valid reasons) woman who wants to raise a family, and be loved and protected and cared for by her man, I hope I can find out before it is too late...
It is truly terrifying to be dumped when you have done nothing wrong.
If you are dumped because you behaved badly, it can be pretty
humiliating, but at least you can say Well, I screwed up,
I better not make that mistake again, now I know how to do it right.
Are Filipina women dedicated to marriage??? I do not think I could survive a third failure, financially or otherwise.
Most of them are. There are notable exceptions, but not many. The point is, there are a lot who are dedicated to marriage, and you can easily find one of those who wants to marry YOU. The question is not, are Filipinas better than American women; the important thing is that the ones who are available to YOU are far better than the American women who are available to you.
I thought I read something about saving a bullet in your FAQ somewhere, if I fail a third time, perhaps someone will lend that bullet to me, just don't expect it to be returned :o). It would just be too much, so I have to be really sure this time. To say that I am "gun shy" at this point, would probably be an understatement in the extreme. But I am also not fond of being alone so much, sometimes it seems preferable, but most of the time, it just stinks. I do not want to grow old and alone, I need someone to share with, someone to walk through life with, someone who will love me as much as I love her. I need someone who will not get bored with me and dump me just because I am not perfect, someone who will work at it with me, who will be patient with me, I am not perfect by a long shot, but I will not give up so easily either.
You have been trodden underfoot for too long. It will change soon;
just remember that you now have choices.
The women you have dealt with up until now have known that you had
nowhere else to go. Now you do. You will find that there is no
longer any need to be angry with them any more, either: they are no
longer a threat to you, they are no longer foes who have the only
key to the treasure which you must have to live,
they are now only people. Ignore them or speak to them,
it's up to you, there is nothing you really need from them.
Hello, I have several nieces (attractive) living in the Philippines, who are interested in coming to the U.S.A. and meeting a suitable lifemate. Would you please E-mail me information on how to have them listed with your service. Thanks.
Simple - just send their vital data (name, address, phone, date of birth,
etc.) to our E-Mail address, or to:
You can also see and print out forms for them to fill out, or even fill out a form right on the Web:
Photographs are a big help too:
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I have found the quality of your service generally quite good compared to some of the other organizations that operate in your industry. I do however have a major complaint about what I believe is misrepresentation on your part in one case. The address of the above lady Mary Ann is one that I ordered from your organization. She was, and still is described on your web site as being 5'4" in height. This is one of the reasons I wrote to her. Being at least this height is important to me (I am a tall man). Since July I have corresponded with Mary Ann and have recently discovered that she is in fact only 5'2". I am most disappointed that you have made this misrepresentation, especially for her sake. She must feel disappointed that I wrote to her on the basis of incorrect information. I also am hesitant now about trusting your organization. Can I purchase further addresses from you in the future with faith that the details about the ladies are correct?
We are quite meticulous in entering the data, as best we can, exactly as the
girls submit it to us. A review of Mary Ann's original form shows that she
herself claimed that she was 5'4" tall. However, we will immediately
revise the database according to the information you have provided, which seems
to be legitimate.
I recommend you take the following corrective action:
Yep - done.
2. Send Mary a letter of apology.
This is not in order, since she is the one who seems to have made the error.
I do appreciate the fact that, although you are concerned about your own
inconvenience, you also recognize that it has caused her some inconvenience too.
In any case, although no one can judge another's tastes, I would suggest being
open to unforeseen experiences. For example, I wrote to my present wife, at
first, based upon what I considered a very attractive quality: she weighed 90
pounds. It turned out that her sister was the one who had submitted her
bio-data to the service, and her weight had increased by the time I was writing
to her. She was over 105 pounds when we got married, and since our baby was
born she now weighs no telling how much, but what the hell, I'm
already in love with her, and it doesn't seem all that important any more.
3. Compensate me for the trouble I have been through by forwarding the
address of another young lady I may wish to write to.
Sounds fair; your chosen replacement address is enclosed: ....
1. A number of women state that they are looking for American husbands. Being Canadian I'm pretty much as western as you guys down south, speak, look, dress the same, etc. Hard to distinguish except for cleaner air and we say eh a lot; Any idea what those in the Philippines think about Canada? (Or are we left out as too cold, too north, or too empty <sigh>)
They would consider Canada about the same as U.S., except that the cold might bother them. They mention U.S. because they have heard about it. A couple of them have said they want an American or a Californian. Guess some people aren't sure that California is part of the U.S. (Even some people who live here....)
2. I seem to be an awkward age. I'm 27 years old and was hoping to find someone 23-27 years old. I found virtually no one in that category who was looking for anyone under 30. AARRRGGGGHHH!!! Sure, there are some really cute 17-22 year olds out there, but there's just something about girls that young that offends my Western sensibilities. Something about being a University educated professional writing to someone who isn't even through high school :-(
Well, it would be a better match than the guys (like me) who want to marry a young one and then hope she will remain young.... It is common for a Filipina to expect to marry an older person. A lot of them still have the traditional respect for old people. I think sometimes they list older ages to increase their prospects, although they would be happy to find a young man too, if he were responsible and mature.
3. I noticed a LOT of women looking for Catholic friends. How bad is the Protestant/Catholic split in the Philippines? In Canada (at least where I am) a Christian is a Christian. I've been Protestant for a very long time now and a devout Christian and have a great respect for the Catholic faith. I just don't hold religiously to all the pomp and circumstance of that denomination. Around here there is no animosity between the denominations (my pastor hangs out with the local Catholic priest all the time). Is there similar goodwill with the Philippine Catholics or are they more, hmm, denominational (sorry, couldn't find a better phrase).
There is absolutely no ill will among the factions, that I can see. I have been married to four Catholic wives (during separate epochs), and I was struck by their lack of interest in sending non-Catholics to Hell... it's not like the Fundamentalists here.
I am committed to marrying an oriental woman. My main concern is that I have read that it can take over 2 years to get permission from the Philippine government to have your fiance/wife join you in the U.S.
Not true. Not even close. The Philippine Government has no say in the matter, aside from issuing her passport, which is routine (or as routine as anything gets in a laidback corrupt country). What takes time is getting a visa from the U.S. Government, because it is the U.S. that is worried about their coming here and causing problems. After you send in the petition for visa, it takes about 5 months. And for some reason, the fiance visa seems to take a little less time than the spouse visa.
Have a question. On some other Mail Order Bride sites dealing with the Philippines, they give female to male ratios of 8 to 1. Another says the country has 70% female population. What's your take on this?
Claiming an 8 to 1 ratio might get the customers' hopes up, but it is just
bizarre. No way. Even 70% female would mean over 2 to 1 female to male (70 to
30)... this COULD happen to a country devastated by a testosterone-driven war,
or by skewed emigration, but emigration is about even, gender-wise. So is the
rate of foreign workers. And they haven't had a war since they helped out the
U.S. in WWII (the big one). In fact, even when they needed a revolution, they
managed the first bloodless revolution in history, to get rid of Marcos.
(I have seen the slightly earlier Haiti revolution against BabyDoc called
"bloodless," but I consider a flaming-tire "necklace" pretty violent.)
"... they don't need you, and man they expect the same."
I do have one question, I am interested in finding a girl under twenty years old for marriage, 16 would be nice, is there any extra difficulty in getting a 16 year old bride into the USA? I am 37.
No, a bride 16 or over is just fine with the U.S. Government (last time we
checked the INS regulations). Under 16 will not be possible; if you marry someone
younger than 16 outside the U.S., you will have to wait until she is 16 before
you may petition to bring her in as a spouse. Of course, there are student and tourist
visas, but I don't think they will let her in on such a visa if she is married
to an American, since they will assume that she is really intending to
immigrate. So if you run into someone very young there, the best thing is NOT
to marry her until you can get her a student or tourist or other kind of visa, and THEN
marry her, in the U.S. There are lots of states that allow very young marriages.
In fact, where I am, in Florida, according to the 1998 Statutes, there is NO LOWER
AGE LIMIT, if she is pregnant, whether the groom is the father of
the unborn baby or not. The groom, too, may be any age, if he is the father of
that unborn child.
There may be a slight difficulty with the Philippine
Government, though: the law I read said that no girl under the age of 18 may
marry, and any female under 21 needs a parent's consent (but I believe this age limit
was lowered recently - see Act SBN-1074, 8/17/98).
I must ask you do women of the Phillipines shave their legs? This is a must for me and I need to know before I go any further than this.
Most do, some don't.
I just purchased some Addresses from you and I noticed that some of them do not have Street Numbers, How can I be sure that the letters I send will reach the person that the letter is intended for?
A lot of the addresses in the "provinces" do not have street
numbers, but the mail gets there just fine. In fact, even in the big city,
sometimes there is no street number. I once wrote to a girl whose address was "back
rubber world," which I was hopeful did not refer to a massage parlor. Sure
enough, later I saw another girl whose address is "back of rubber world."
My wife tells me she has seen this place, a kind of shoe store called Rubber World
(waterproof shoes are very popular among Filipinas... okay, I won't lie to you,
all shoes are very popular among Filipinas),
and some people live behind ("back of") the store.
I know a man who is writing to approx. 15 different Filipino young
women, they range in age from approx. 17 to 24 years old. He has no
intention of staying married to them for very long. He plans on having them
sign a prenuptial agreement so that he can divorce them and not loose
I am married to (**** *. *****) for 11 years, we shared 2 beautiful children.
I am the third wife.
I filed for divorce.
I was abuse by this man.
Now he is looking for another Filipina to marry.
Please don't let him bring
another Filipina here in the US to be abuse again.
He was arrested for physically abuse our eldest son.
I know that this is your business and your only after the profit,
but please listen to your conscience.
This was foretold by Paul in I Timothy 4:1-3:
Not only do the the Philippine laws restrict marriage by Nationality, they also discriminate by Religion - They allow fewer wives to non-Muslims than to Muslims!!!!! This, in effect, forbids already-married non-Muslims to marry, because divorce is forbidden.
Beware! If a politician can tell you how many wives you can have, he can tell you how many children you can have! The U.S. is already well along that road.
The Philippines also has COMPULSORY VOTING!!! (As does Australia)
Some folks just can't get the hang of Freedom, confuse it with Democracy.
I sincerely hope that you have properly explained the potential
implications of submitting to a mail-order agency such as this. Judging from the
grammar and content of those who have advertised here I think that it is safe to
surmise that most are of limited education and are quite naive to the ways of
Do these ladies speak English?
Just how much does it cost, altogether, to get a bride this way?
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I'm interested in getting married, but unsure bout
the women do they want to get married just to get out
or are they sincere, or do they just want to get married for
citizenship. I dont want to marry then after she recieves her citizenship
from me, then she would file for divorce.
I'm looking to settle down and start a family.
Is there anyway to make sure a Filipinia lady is not using an American man to become a citizen? Any questions i can ask to insure that it is true love and not a scam. can I ask her to sign a preneuptial agreement to safeguard against her taking divorcing me and taking my money, after shortly after she gets to America.
(To answer most of this, see the preceding answer.)
How do I call the Philippines? Do I dial 001 first then area code and number? Please help soon as possible.
You can dial DIRECT, without paying for an operator, by dialing 011, plus
the COUNTRY CODE (which is 63), plus the CITY CODE, plus the
7-digit phone number.
The part you have to find out is the CITY CODE.
Strangely, this is sometimes ONE digit and sometimes TWO digits.
It is quite disturbing how in the expectations portions of these women, they mention that they are looking for pen friends. Yet, they are advertised as mail to order brides? This is truly alarming. Do they know that their pictures are advertised as mail to order brides? Would appreciate your response on this.
You are just too easily disturbed.
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